why we need fun

Well... finally some theory on this blog... uff... so here goes :)

There are a few things to point out here. And lots of this has lots to do with psychology... which shouldn't be too shocking considering I'm a psych student. And for those who don't know: psychology isn't bad. It isn't a work of the devil. It's supposed to help. Just like medicine, arts, banking, journalism... it's all for us, people, to make our lives... better, more interesting, more reflecting, perhaps to help us understand problems that cannot be solved... Whatever gives us strength for action is good. I feel silly to have to explain how psychology is a chance for self-development... and I feel silly to keep excusing myself by using the argument of the reality in my country... But it seems important.

In my life I've been lucky enough to travel some part of the world and meet different cultures, being still a child. I've become open to suggestions, sensitive to other's problems and... learned that a positive attitude is a best solution. IF (and unfortunately, only if), the surrounding also tries to avoid all the negativity in behavior. Again, I go back to the example of my dearest country; usually, when I first come across with anyone here, I am considered to be stupid/girlish/mental/childish/blabla/whatever... simply because I smile.
The two main characters of our political scene are twin brothers, the President and the Prime Minister, who seem to lack of any sense of humor. I fear one day they might want to make joke-telling illegal. Hence smiling is considered as suspicious and as a sign of being up-to-sth-no-good. Which is why I promote the simple, natural activity called "smiling". It has been scientifically (perhaps the word "psychologically" would be better...) proven, that smiling gives better outcomes in social relations. I sometimes wish Poland had some song standards, like "Smile", composed by Charlie Chaplin. The only Polish song I can think of is "Uśmiechnij się"... and the only version I can recall was its parody... which didn't send the right message, if you ask me...

Today, it is a fact that more and more, especially young people are depressed. And suicidal. Today, when the life standard is so much higher, when these are the safest times in the history of the world and when tolerance and individuality is more and more common. The answer is: pressure. We are all expected to be successful, the goal is to be at the top. And in order to be at the top we have to work, work work... Ever watched "The Shining"? Anyone? All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. If you want to keep your mental health, you need to go out there and have fun. Period.

And all this is also based on my a-couple-or-more years of experience. There are ups and downs, we all have them. It's how we get through that matters. You need to look at the bright side and learn from that experience. You can learn what helps you, who you can trust... and who you can play with :) And... you get creative. The sooner you start to search for fun, the easier it is. You also need to believe you deserve to have fun, and frankly, all of us deserve to have fun. The only thing here to be said is about moral boundaries. We all know that these boundaries are fuzzy. I guess what I have to say is: make sure no one gets hurt. Funhaving is supposed to give you energy, be an inspiration... to... umm... :) whatever one might need :)

OK., enough of all the psychology, ethics and so on... But some things need to be thought about.